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There's no rulebook or strategy when it comes to dating someone and You could date for six years and feel too chill about making any sudden But I'm not sure I'm ready to get married right now and take things to the next level. 8. We' re still in an LDR. We've been dating for four years but three of. 15 relationship facts everybody should know before getting married . "It's Not You, It's the Dishes" coauthor Paula Szuchman recommends a take you, which means in the end, you've saved quite a bit of collective time." 8/15 After dating someone for a couple of years, you might feel like you know. After five years of dating, I told my boyfriend that if he didn't propose by A couple years ago, I wrote about my disappointment in not being married yet.
Another thing is that marriage, to me, is the start of a journey together. And isn't moving in together for the first time a great way to commence the journey? I want marriage because it is important to me. It is important to my fiance.
We want this commitment before living together, before family. To some people, it might just be a piece of paper.
But to others, it could be of great intangible value, not to mention as a civil institution, an act that changes your legal status in the US and can affect your legal rights of property ownership and your financial picture joint taxes, ability to be insured as family, ability to collect social security.
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To the OP- if you insist that you have no choice at this point but to move in, go ahead. But I really think you are not helping matters or your situation at all. You say yourself that "you wouldn't move in with a guy for any other reason other than he will soon be my husband. Do not tell him you want a ring in 6 months or you are moving out.
How will you feel if he finally gives you a ring, and you had to threated him with moving out to get it? I would feel embarassed that it took and ultimatum, and I would worry that he was only marrying me because I forced him to. That would not feel good.
And if he doesn't provide the ring?
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Will you really move out? My bet is you would not, and then he's caught you in an empty threat. Now your words will not carry much weight with him, if that happens. Not to mention the fact that after 8 years, being sure about marriage means you want to get married.
The opposite of being sure is not wanted to get married. You can't want to be sort-of married. You either are or you aren't, so you either want it or you don't! Here's what I would do. Tell him that you wouldn't move in with a guy for any other reason than he would soon be your husband. Don't move in with him. Don't leave the relationship, yet. Tell him you love him and want to marry him sooner than later, and because of this desire, you want to continue the relationship, but you cannot there will be no-cohabitating unless you are engaged.
Set a date in your mind of a reasonable timeframe in which he should propose by. Say, March 31, That's 9 whole months!
Spanning the holiday season and valentine's day, I might add! If he doesn't propose by then, cut your losses and break it off. Don't tell him this date; don't tell him your plans. That would be an ultimatum.
Otherwise it becomes a vicious circle of neither of you bringing it up while the woman is silently waiting for something to change. This just causes more doubt and uneasiness. You'll be surprised how this type of discussion isn't so scary or difficult with the right guy. Even though most women I know are successful professionals, it's understandable that most men want to know they can provide for their wife and family.
While there is a time and place to focus on a career or education, to constantly hear "I'm not in a place to marry anyone right now" is confusing and frustrating. It keeps a relationship in perpetual limbo. Also, it repeatedly tells the woman that this decision isn't hers. Instead it is when he is "ready. Recognize that his resistance may be to marrying you. He "Doesn't Know" When my friend quit her job, moved to her boyfriend's city, moved in together and started looking at rings, she thought he was The One.
So when months later she asked, "Do you want to marry me? If you feel confident you are with the man you want to marry and asking him elicits a half-hearted, non-committal answer -- realize what's really going on. No one should take marriage lightly, but at some point, you must lay all your cards on the table. What other information does he think he needs to know?
When in doubt, direct questions often give you the right answer even if when it is "I don't know. And my friend broke up with her boyfriend, moved back to her city, had a rough breakup year and then met her current husband. I filed this under his edgy, non-conformist personality I liked.
Now I see it as a glaring neon sign telling me it was never going to happen.
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I was convinced I could melt his cold, cynical heart. Maybe what I should have asked was did he want his heart melted? I made excuses for his behavior but took little responsibility for my own.
He didn't want to get married, not then, and not to me. If I hadn't been trying to change his mind, I would have realized his mind was exactly where he wanted it to be.
All that needed changing was my ability to see it. Ultimately it's not about a wedding. It's not about the proposal story or a ring on your finger. It's about two people falling in love and wanting to build a life together. If you're deeply unhappy with someone but you think his proposal will change things, it won't.
It will distract you from the real issues for a while, but they will still be there.